Frequently Asked Questions
Can I choose more than one habit at a time?
I don't recommend it. I've been running these challenges for over a year now- and the biggest reason that people drop out is by over committing. The key to this practice is to be humble enough to select one SMALL habit and just fucking nail it.
I get it- when you have that energy and desire to change- you want to get it all done RIGHT NOW!!!! Feel free to do that on your own time- but for this challenge just select ONE SMALL habit from the list.
That being said- once you've integrated your chosen habit into your life- you can add another and another and another.
Can I do something that's not on the list?
For the sake of unifying the group- please choose something from the list. But please reach out to me with your idea so that I can consider adding it to the program!
What if I miss a day...or more?
Just cut your losses and get right back to it. One of the most important skills we can learn from this challenge is learning to keep trying...especially when we fuck up. It's often not the actual habit that's challenging to do-it's the learning to listen to ourselves that's challenging. So get right back to it!!!!!
Can I skip a day if I promise to "make up for it" tomorrow?
No! Creating a new path in your brain requires DAILY maintenance. That being said, if you do miss a day, there's no harm in doing extra the next :)
How did the Creating a New Neural Pathway 45 Day Challenge Master Program for Success Start?
I, Kristin Harley, also known as Kirsten Hurley, started it in early 2021. I was inspired by the book, "Habits of a Happy Brain" by Loretta Graziano Breuning, PhD.
Basically, the author explains that we can create new pathways in our brain. At first, walking down the path will be difficult- we will be bushwacking thicket...but eventually, after walking the pathway for 45 days, it will become much, much easier.
Once I started building new paths in my brain- I didn't want to stop!!! The way I see it, humans are easily programmable. We can keep going with the default software we've had since childhood and adolescence- or we can take charge of ourselves and create intentional pathways!!!
Is it hard to adopt a new habit?
The hardest part for me was teaching myself to listen to myself! So these challenges become less about the chosen habit, and more about the practice of learning to listen to myself. My higher self- not the animal in me that wants what it wants when it wants it. Ultimately, with practice, we can become someone who obeys the will of our higher self, someone who chooses to honor our long term desires over our short term.
And it just gets easier and easier and easier and EASIER the more that we practice. I didn't know this before but there is so much more FREEDOM IN DISCIPLINE! and that makes life fukn awesome which makes it easier overall.